Mommy, I Need to Help You!

Lately, accomplishing regular household tasks have been taking a lot longer.

Why? My not yet 2 1/2 year old daughter has recently wanted to work along side me and do what I am doing.

There are certain days I try to start a baking project as quietly as I can hoping she won’t notice for at least a while. Other times I try to get tasks done before she gets up or after she is tucked in for the night. But the majority of my work happens when she is around.

Mommy, I need to help you

A mundane task takes longer. (Transferring clothes from the washer to the dryer:-))

Putting a batch of muffins in the oven is more time intensive.

Messes are larger and more frequent.

Kitchen towels are not folded, but rather shoved into the drawer.

Silverware is placed in wrong slots.

I don’t think she knows the difference between a want and a need but I think my daughter is right. She needs to help. She desires to learn, know she useful, feel like a grown-up, try new things, conquer what’s unknown to her with me beside her.

Honestly, sometimes it’s a drag. I really just want to rush through what I’m doing and get it finished. It’s hard for me to slow down and be patient and teach her what I’m doing.

I try to remind myself that if I do stop and engage with my daughter I’m fostering a love for learning, a love to try new things, and even courage. Through my interactions with her she can see that it’s okay if a spill happens, that the world is not going to end if something is not done perfectly and to persevere.

On the other hand, through me and my actions, she could have ingrained a fear of making mistakes, believe that messes cause frustration, and lose her desire to try new things.

I know there are times I will get frustrated and annoyed. I’m going to remind myself how important my reactions are and try to encourage and build my children up way more often than not.

 

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27 thoughts on “Mommy, I Need to Help You!

  1. Leigh Ann @ Intentional By Grace

    I can so relate to this post. I, too, have a 2.5 year old. He loves helping me “make pancakes” (for some reason everything in the kitchen is pancakes to him) and sweep and water the garden and make the bed and even take a shower. ha! But you’re right. Allowing them to come alongside us does foster a love for learning and more than anything I want him to know that spilled milk is okay. I’m just happy to be with him. It certainly is not always easy, but one thing I’ve learned to do is to just plan less for my day. What gets done, gets done. What doesn’t, well … doesn’t. 🙂

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    1. admin

      Great advice to try not to cram days full then when things take longer than expected it’s not a big deal. Your guys sounds like a cutie, thanks for stopping by.

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  2. Jelli

    My little girl’s at that same stage right now. She adores making pancake (messes) with me, like to throw absolutely everything into the trash can, and to “clean” the house with her old baby washcloths. It’s pretty cute, but definitely time consuming. Glad you’re able to enjoy your little helper even when her help isn’t quite so much… Visiting from Christian Mommy Blogger.

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  3. Mel Caldicott

    This is something I am so challenged by. I know I should allow my kids to be more involved in the running of the home but I really struggle with the messy haphazard way they do things. Yet, I know like you have so insightfully said that this is something that will make them afraid of making mistakes.

    I am determined to include them in more of the household jobs this summer (and not sweat when it’s not done how I would do it!).

    I linked here from Fellowship Fridays and thought you might want to link this post at the linkup I host called Essential Fridays.

    http://www.essentialthingdevotions.com

    I’m sure my readers would love to see this!

    Blessings.

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    1. admin

      I struggled with this today as my daughter was helping make muffins and batter flung out of the bowl for the third time. . . 🙂 But the funny thing is, as I was stirring after here I did exactly the same thing. oops.

      Thanks for coming by. Off to check out your blog and link up!

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  4. Colleen @ MommieDaze

    It’ s so hard to have patience with learning children. I was teaching my son to fold and put away his clean laundry the other day. It was taking forever. I so wanted to just grab everything and do it myself so we could be done. But I sat their and guided him and watched. But it was hard!

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  5. Joanne Viola

    The years will pass so quickly. Let them help. They truly do need to help. It is in the helping that they feel useful & a part of the family, of the home. Sure, you will need to do some things over to get it right but what you will be instilling in them & the rewards you will receive in the years to come are so worth it!!! I was your neighbor at Essential Fridays 🙂
    Blessings,
    Joanne

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    1. admin

      Thanks for stopping by and thanks for the encouragement! Somedays I need to remind myself more than others. 🙂

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  6. Cheri

    My oldest always wanted to “help” with dishes so I was always left with a very wet kitchen 🙂 I try to remind myself that there will come a day when they won’t want to help and my kitchen will be quiet once again- too quiet. Blessings to you!

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    1. admin

      So true! I don’t like to think about that day. 🙂 That is good reason to enjoy the little helpers even when they make messes.

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  7. Sue from theT2women

    Way to go, Mom! Great advice! It’s so much easier to do it ourselves, but it will pay big dividends later on!! Thanks so much for sharing this with us at One Sharendipity Place!

    Sue @ thet2women.com

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  8. Bibi

    Aww, how precious. I can’t relate (yet), but will someday. Great Post, thanks for sharing your thoughts on your daughter helping you. It’s great to read that she takes an interest in doing what you do!

    Found you via Babies and Beyond!

    Bibi

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    1. admin

      Thanks for stopping by! You are right, it is pretty great. Most of the time anyway. 🙂 Just checked out your blog – your little girl is adorable – what a cutie! Won’t be too long before she’s following you are everywhere.

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  9. Katherine

    What a good reminder! My Rooster isn’t quite old enough to really want to help, but I try to include him in simple things through out the day. I do think of it as training him up and one day he’ll be doing these things by himself and I’ll miss those little “helping” hands.

    Thanks for linking up at Babies and Beyond this week.

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    1. admin

      They grow so fast when they are little! My daughter will be 2 1/2 the beginning of August and the last couple of months she’s really started to want to help do EVERYTHING, the last month especially. It is pretty cute. Most of the time anyway. 🙂

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  10. Sarah

    My oldest used to love to help me clean the bathroom. The toilet brush became his favorite toy. We literally had to buy him a new one to keep him from finding it other people’s homes.

    So delighted to meet you. I hope you don’t mind if I splash around a bit to get to know you. This looks like a refreshing place to dip into some serious goodness.

    I would love you to share this post! A group of moms gather each week. I usually post on Mondays, but missed it this week. I start jotting a few notes and then others join in. You can post whenever, doesn’t have to be anything new, it can be a gem nestled in your pages. I get the filled to the brim momma schedules.

    Just moms. Sharing our notes. Creating a melody.

    http://justsarahdawn.blogspot.com/2013/07/syllable-by-syllable.html

    Be blessed,
    Sarah

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    1. admin

      Ha ha, the toilet brush is quite the object to become enamored with. 🙂 How funny. Thanks for stopping by, looking forward to checking out your blog! Congrats on your growing family – how fun and what a change!

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  11. hsmominmo

    That’s real life learning, and real life relationship happening there in your kitchen! I’m thinking of the days when my own girl was 2, and such a willing helper in the kitchen. She now is cooking wonderful meals for her husband, with a 2 year old little girl of her own saying “mommy I NEED to help you”
    a lovely post, and a loving reminder to embrace these moments. Thank you!
    (stopping by from momma notes)

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    1. admin

      What a great story and an excellent reminder why to let my daughter help – great memories and it is training her to someday run a home a raise her own family. Thanks for stopping by!

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    1. Deanna Michaels Post author

      It is pretty cute! Ha ha, she still likes having things done for her but I guess I should be thankful she’s pretty independent. There are days when she will sit down and cry when I try and get her to do something herself though.

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    1. Deanna Michaels Post author

      Ha ha! You are right, there are great dividends. I love it when my daughter helps. I will admit that there are times I try and sneak in the kitchen and start opening up cabinets and cooking as quietly as I can though because I know when she hears me in there she will come. 😉 Thanks for starting Teaching Tuesdays. Looking forward to getting lots of ideas.

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